Why these women in my life hate my weight- a Peephole into my world

I'm 5 feet and weigh 133lbs as far as I know for the longest time.

I am a petite woman of curves. I'm proud of my body because in my 23 years of living, my body has survived many near death experiences and has been physically tested to the extremities. Stretch marks and cellulites are like moles on skin to me. Though some people may not have any, I'd like to think that's just normal too.

I can't think of any country besides my culture that defines being skinny is the ideal body type. Generally in my culture being Vietnamese woman; it means bare your bones. Harsh, but true...
 It just seems like I'm living in a progressive era of defining the perfect ideal body type. I don't mean to sound hypocritical but, I do have a preference how "fat" I want to be.

So I think that's how most women sort of disagree. There are 3 ladies and their mother in my life now who probably thinks they can make me feel soo bad about myself by questioning why I'm fat. It's even more ridiculous that they aren't even my relatives …sort of like in laws…very distant in laws... does that make sense?

Every time there is a family get together these cruel ladies assume:

1. I eat cheeseburger on a daily basis.
2. I sleep all day (I work 4am to 8pm 6 days a week)
3. I don't exercise (I make efforts to, thanks to my new beach body program Focus T-25!)
4. They suggest I eat salads only. (yeah I'm gonna get a whole lot of nutrients from a lettuce -__-)
5.  "I wanna take you to get a makeover!" *Fake enthusiasm*

Every time it's like this.

I decline multiple times when they invite me to go to the mall.
I don't participate in their conversation but reluctantly, if they ask me a question I reply with one word answers.
Knowing they are staring at me while I'm trying to eat really annoys me, but I can hide my emotions very well.
If they are sooo repulsive by the looks of me, why can't they just let it go? Why try to change me at all if I'm not willing to change or conform to their  definition of "healthy".

Now, these ladies are not heavy set, pleasantly plump, or even happy medium. They are very boney with maybe 1% to 0 body fat. No lean muscle definition or signs that they lift weights. Just ordinary but still beautiful women.

I don't go around pointing fingers about how sick like anorexic-sick they are. Or suggest they only eat  at all-you-can-eat- buffets. What would give me a good reason too? I'm a woman who supports other woman for who they are or what fat preferences they want to be.


So next time they tell me to eat salad, I'm going to be very frank. "No thank you, I'm going to enjoy this food that was meant to eaten by me."